This week, we talked about the tragic, unexpected loss of Black Panther actor Chadwick Boseman. The subject of early detection and how his one co-star on the Netflix movie “Da 5 Bloods” thought he was being a diva on set. Unaware he was dying of cancer.
We also discussed Claws star Niecy Nash‘s sudden marriage (to a woman) and how shocked we were about that because Nash was the same woman who said a “BJ a day keeps the divorce lawyer away”. Needless to say, she’s not one to take marital advice from. Good luck to her though.
Racism etiquette (mixed couple issue) and negative thoughts are a few things we engaged in this week. And in our Final 15, we talked about the importance of self-care.
So I’m at home, minding my own, watching the news when this story came on about a young, black, female artist who is currently painting a mural downtown.
Immediatly, I thought “Oh wow! Pittsburgh’s doing a Black Lives Matter mural? That’s dope” (but I was wrong). Following the story a bit further, it wasn’t a mural of the movement but a movement with a colorful yet similar message.
The artist is Jayla Patton and the mural is titled “Colorful Growth/Soft Waves”, now showing on Penn Avenue, downtown, between 9th and 10 Streets until early November.
I found her online and immediately reached out to her via Instagram to set up a meeting. She didn’t hesitate and invited me down for a chat.
We decided to meet Saturday morning which worked out perfectly because the weather was picture-perfect, to say the least! Perfect because even with an overcast, the colors on the mural screamed “Here I am! I’m what you came to see!”
I parked my car, paid the meter ($4 for a freakin’ hour? Really, Pittsburgh?), and walked towards the mural on Penn. I looked around to see if I can spot Jayla and there she was; a brown-skin girl, full of focus and inspiration, already working.
“Hey, Jayla! I’m Ki Ki!” I muffled from under my facemask. “Oh yeah! Hey!” I can see that she was smiling from her eyes looking up at me. We said hello with our elbows (because you know…the Rona) and we started making small talk.
I thanked her for agreeing to see me as I know she’s been bombarded by media all week. After explaining what I wanted to do and why, she was like “ok, cool”. No questions, no odd looks from above her bandana facemask. We were good to go.
Before I arrived, she had been trying to remove some smudges from the mural caused by rain, foot traffic, whatever. So I told her I would take some video and photos before we started the interview. “Ok, cool” she happily shrugged.
As I’m taking pictures and video with my iPhone, I thought, “damn, I’m in Pittsburgh, my hometown, about to interview a street artist who is creating a mural with a message that so fitting for the days we’re living in right now. One message that is well overdue for this city! Who would have thought?”
I must admit, I was a little nervous. All I kept thinking about was, how am I going to do this holding a selfie stick? And then, I dropped my cards in the water! Dammit! That’s so embarrassing!
While on a phone call, Jayla walked over to me and handed me a towel to wipe off the street wet from my notes. If that wasn’t GOD telling me to chill out, I don’t know what was!
I put the cards in my pocket and said “f” it! Let’s do this!
The Takeaway: Meeting Jayla was super sweet and super awesome! Her energy was soothing and I was moved by her inspiring message that if we just stop trying to over talk one another, accepting faults and failures (in the video she calls it something else with the letter “f”), we can make beautiful, colorful sounds and waves that can heal this world. Sounds a little kumbaya but you get what I’m saying, right?
Next time you have some free time, grab your masks and the kids for a teachable moment. Jayla should be there to answer any questions you may have!
This week, we are joined by Political Commentator and Republican strategist, Lenny Mc Allister. We had a lot of questions about the party along with some misconceptions and negativity in response to what’s being communicated by the current administration.
We had no idea (well, I didn’t) that not all Republicans were racist, rich and/or rude. Some are even black and feel the same way that I do! Why am I surprised to hear that some Republicans are black?
When I was younger, my mother told me that Republicans only cared about rich people. Her exact words were, “Republicans are for the rich and Democrats are for the poor”. So I saw it as black people were poor and white people were rich. Ohhhhh! (Yeah, she definitely screwed me up with that one! Don’t worry, I figured it out later.)
I’ve known Lenny for a few years and although this was our second time chatting, I’ve only had the best and most positive exprience with him. He knows his stuff and although I don’t agree with everything, I’m glad he was able to take some time out of his schedule to chat with us and drop some “actual factuals” (bars) about what’s really going on with the Re’pubs!
So what did we learn?
Some Republicans, believe it or not, want the same things we (the Dem’crats) want. It’s just not communcated that way.
I haven’t switched parties but I’m really glad Lenny came along to help settle our anxieties. (mine especially)
Listen to our podcast and see for yourself.
If you’re a visual person like our friend LaShawn “The Chatter Chick” Tipton, click on the videos and leave a comment.
Part One: Women’s Equality Day and the NBA/WNBA protests for racial injustice
Part Two: What is a Republican? Are all Republicans rude, rich and racist? What’s the deal?
In this week’s episode of The Hey Girl Hey Podcast, we return with Pittsburgh divorce attorney, Lauren Darbouze of the Darbouze Law Group to discuss the difference between custody and #childsupport, #divorce, and how even regular people can get a #prenup.
First:15-Hot Topics: we talk about actress Zoe Saldana and her regret playing Nina Simone.
“They Said” Fan Mail: a man writes about his girlfriend of 2 years who has a spending problem and worrying if he should end the relationship or try to help her.
(send emails to firstname.lastname@example.org)
Hey Girl Hey Spotlight: Attorney Lauren Darbouze of the Darbouze Law Group responds to more fan mail regarding child support, custody, prenups and divorce.
We are joined by a licensed therapist and mental health consultant, Jessica Gurley (LCSW) to discuss women being called the “B-word” (why it’s offensive when men say it and not when women say it), betraying friendships and the recent news stories surrounding Kanye West and mental illness.
Check out Parts One, Two, and Three on video:
If you are in need of mental consultation or therapy, contact Jessica Gurley, LCSW here.
Will and Jada stirred up enough craziness and confusion with this entanglement mess, they broke camp and headed to the islands for a much needed break. Rumor has it, this resort is kinda like the resort to the stars (Tiger Woods and Justin Timberlake). No need to mention the night rate. It’ll just make you mad.
Empire star Bryshere Grey isn’t having the best 2020 and I’m not too sure this recent incident has anything to do with the coronavirus pandemic. It’s being reported Grey got into a domestic violent altercation with his wife (didn’t know he was married) who called police and later had him arrested. No word on how the altercation got started but his mugshot’s pretty interesting.
Another co-host for The Real calls it quits and I’m not surprised. Tamera Mowry-Housley has decided this will be her last season on the talk show. She took to her social media to share the news stating that she’s looking forward to “…spending more time with my family, pursuing amazing new opportunities, and embarking on the next chapter of my life” (Source)